Slow Burn....

[brewcity77]

See, this is why I made sure that included in her marriage vows last week were the words "I promise to love you, respect you, trust you, stay with you, and accept your passion for Marquette basketball as long as we both shall live."

[akmarq]

Is this a bad time to point out that I'll be at the game because of the season tickets the girlfriend bought me?

[Lennys Tap]

Sultan - the party STARTS at 6:00. Walk out the door as the game ends and arrive fashionably late - it's a freakin' office party.

Jake - you planned an afternoon/evening/night most wives would kill for. If your wife is so big a ballbuster that it's not enough you might want to reconsider how you feel.

Benny - call a lawyer or buy a gun.

(hope the sarcasm was obvious enough to not require teal)

[JD]

Is this a bad time to point out that I'll be at the game because of the season tickets the girlfriend bought me?

I was going to bring something similar up that my girlfriend wants to go to this game more than anything.  However i wasn't sure this was the time or place to do so.  Just a question for the more seasoned males out there.  Were your wives at the time more open to going to games and then once the papers were signed they turned into non fans of MU basketball?  If that's the case i'm not sure i'll ever want to get married.  

[Canned Goods n Ammo]

Sultan - the party STARTS at 6:00. Walk out the door as the game ends and arrive fashionably late - it's a freakin' office party.

Jake - you planned an afternoon/evening/night most wives would kill for. If your wife is so big a ballbuster that it's not enough you might want to reconsider how you feel.

Benny - call a lawyer or buy a gun.

And buy a Warren Zevon record.

[GGGG]

Sultan - the party STARTS at 6:00. Walk out the door as the game ends and arrive fashionably late - it's a freakin' office party.

It's actually a really nice dinner...followed by some drinking.  Can't really be late and it actually isn't *that* bad of a time.

[Dr. Blackheart]

Man, there are a lot of hairy wet cats on this board. Bring your damn iPad's to the office party and lock your self in the stall in the men's room claiming the clam sauce was bad. Good lord.

[MerrittsMustache]

I was going to bring something similar up that my girlfriend wants to go to this game more than anything.  However i wasn't sure this was the time or place to do so.  Just a question for the more seasoned males out there.  Were your wives at the time more open to going to games and then once the papers were signed they turned into non fans of MU basketball?  If that's the case i'm not sure i'll ever want to get married.  

My wife understood that when she married me, she married a Marquette season ticket holder (and die-hard Cubs and Bears fan). It's a package deal. If your girlfriend doesn't understand that about you, she should become your ex-girlfriend who tried to make you stop doing something you truly enjoy.

Word to the wise, don't let your wife hear you refer to marriage as "getting papers signed" or anything similar  

[brewcity77]

My wife understood that when she married me, she married a Marquette season ticket holder (and die-hard Cubs and Bears fan). It's a package deal. If your girlfriend doesn't understand that about you, she should become your ex-girlfriend who tried to make you stop doing something you truly enjoy.

Word to the wise, don't let your wife hear you refer to marriage as "getting papers signed" or anything similar  

That's why I wrote it into the vows. Quite simply, you don't sign on for life with me without realizing there are certain caveats that come with the package. By the same token, I have no problem with her scrapbooking, her love of going out dancing with friends, or handling all the grocery shopping myself.

[thebigjake]

I'll answer JDuquaine's question since it was my post that started that tangent.

The wife didn't change her position on hoops after marriage. She was never a big hoops fan, but she'll watch Michigan State games (her school) on occasion. She likes football and will gladly watch and go to games with me. She's a Bear fan and I'm a Packer fan, so that makes it "interesting". We have a not-too subtle war going on for the football allegiances of our two sons. I've got the 7-year old locked in for the Pack, and she recently got the 5 year old to flip to her side. But that kid is smart enough to use this for leverage on his own ("Mom stop teasing or I won't like the Bears"). It's fascinating actually.

Sorry for that additional tangent. The MU game thing wasn't a matter of not "offering" enough. I don't think it mattered what it was. She wanted to spend her birthday together, not at a high end spa by herself. I really can't get mad at that, can I? Especially when I can just record the game and watch it later. Something I do for many of the games anyway, save for the 8-9 I go to in person. Just because I don't want to record the game isn't much of an argument for watering down her birthday.

[tower912]

I was going to bring something similar up that my girlfriend wants to go to this game more than anything.  However i wasn't sure this was the time or place to do so.  Just a question for the more seasoned males out there.  Were your wives at the time more open to going to games and then once the papers were signed they turned into non fans of MU basketball?  If that's the case i'm not sure i'll ever want to get married.  

Stay single.   Make sex a retail arrangement.    Make your time your own and keep your money.     Or not.    Marriage does change women but not nearly as much as children do.   Those mommy hormones are amazing in how they change the woman you married into a creature that you do not recognize.    My wife had an extensive knowledge of basketball, having grown up in Indiana with a huge crush on Steve Alford, (all girls her age from Indiana had a crush on him to some degree).   One of the things that attracted me to her was her ability to have a reasonable basketball discussion.   With the years, the stresses, the time commitments, the kidlings, she couldn't care less anymore.    She accepts my MU obsession because in comparison to the options it is relatively harmless and Lord knows she has her own Facebook fetish. 

[muguru]

First of all, I have never understood why, once you get past 21 a Birthday is such a big deal to people anyway?? It's just another freaking day. Secondly, in all seriousness, you all need to get your priorities straight. NOTHING should EVER interefere with an MU game, especially the MU-UW game. Stay home, watch it. What's she going to do?? Divorce you over it?? I highly doubt it. Mine divorced me for other reasons, and i couldn't be happier. I don't have to answer to anyone about MU ball for any reason. 

[Canned Goods n Ammo]

First of all, I have never understood why, once you get past 21 a Birthday is such a big deal to people anyway?? It's just another freaking day. Secondly, in all seriousness, you all need to get your priorities straight. NOTHING should EVER interefere with an MU game, especially the MU-UW game. Stay home, watch it. What's she going to do?? Divorce you over it?? I highly doubt it. Mine divorced me for other reasons, and i couldn't be happier. I don't have to answer to anyone about MU ball for any reason.  

Nobody is ever going to divorce somebody for watching basketball instead of a birthday dinner.

However, subscribing to the theory: "What are you going to do, divorce me?" might ultimately lead to the answer "Yes, I am."

I don't think adult birthdays are a big deal, but in the grand scheme of life, if watching the game on DVR makes my wife happy... I'll do it. Happy wife = happy life.

Jake, enjoy your dinner and the game on DVR.

I will be drunk downtown from about noon until I can't walk anymore (10pm?).

[boyonthedock]

Being born on pearl harbor day, my birthday is ALWAYS like within 3 days of the wisconsin game. It has been a very popular gift for me for a while now. My 21st was actually the day after an MU home wisconsin game, that MU won, naturally, so drank at the game, went to a party after, hit bars at midnight. All and all it was pretty cool. My girlfriend is also an MU alum with passion for the team so watching the Marquette game is something I have to inform her of so she keeps her plans free so she can remember to watch it more than anything else.

[Lennys Tap]

I was going to bring something similar up that my girlfriend wants to go to this game more than anything.  However i wasn't sure this was the time or place to do so.  Just a question for the more seasoned males out there.  Were your wives at the time more open to going to games and then once the papers were signed they turned into non fans of MU basketball?  If that's the case i'm not sure i'll ever want to get married.  

I know some guys whose girlfriends did a 180 regarding habits, friends and hobbies before the ink was dry on the marriage license. The choice was change or be miserable or change and be miserable. I think it was more common in my day when the pressure to marry early was greater. Young people today aren't in as big a hurry and are willing to wait a little longer to find a real partner.

My personal experience? I was a lottery winner - my wife may find the amount of passion I invest in MU basketball a bit odd but she indulges me nonetheless. 39 years later she still takes the 140 mile (rountrip) rides with me to the home games and sits next to me on the couch while I swear at the TV during road games. When she can't/doesn't feel like going, I bring a friend.

[KenoshaWarrior]

Get even.   Make out with her hot co-worker.

Nicccceeeeeeeee

[PuertoRicanNightmare]

My wife is dropping me off and picking me up.

Why? I'll be drinking quite a bit and because I said so.

[esotericmindguy]

There was a time when MEN actually dictated plans. We've just allowed Women to run the show, and now it's just expected. Her birthday was the 6th and you're whining about a game on the 8th??? Man the feck up!

[NersEllenson]

My wife is dropping me off and picking me up.

Why? I'll be drinking quite a bit and because I said so.

Nominee for post of the year.  Well done PRN!!

[MerrittsMustache]

Since this thread has turned into Marquette men's relationship advice, here's the simple advice my father once gave to me: Marry the right girl and life is easy.
 
In retrospect, I'm pretty sure he said that because he was passive aggressively trying to get me to break up with my overdramatic, at-the-time girlfriend but still, it's good advice.

[mugrad2006]

Easiest fix to this: Marry a Marquette basketball fanatic.  My wife and are are ditching her office Christmas party (which is actually a pretty awesome event: all you can eat/drink and live music) so that we can be at the game.  

I'll do that one better though, our one year wedding anniversary is in March, and we're going to NY for four days of watching the last hurrah of the BEast tourney as we know it.

Edit: Should have read Merrit's post above, I second his advice.

[real chili 83]

The Facebook and Pinterest queen?  Don't think she has anything on me.

That effing Pinterest site has cost me more money.......

[real chili 83]

I was going to bring something similar up that my girlfriend wants to go to this game more than anything.  However i wasn't sure this was the time or place to do so.  Just a question for the more seasoned males out there.  Were your wives at the time more open to going to games and then once the papers were signed they turned into non fans of MU basketball?  If that's the case i'm not sure i'll ever want to get married.  

If you have to ask the question......

Stay single my friend.

[hairy worthen]

Stay home, watch it. What's she going to do?? Divorce you over it?? I highly doubt it. Mine divorced me for other reasons, and i couldn't be happier. I don't have to answer to anyone about MU ball for any reason. 

I live by the credo-- it is much easier to beg for forgiveness than to ask for permission.

[real chili 83]

I live by the credo-- it is much easier to beg for forgiveness than to ask for permission.

Agreed.  Just like when I put a 32 inch LCD flat screen in the garage (man cave) this fall.  Didn't ask, cause I knew what the answer would be.  Now she's glad I have it........ I have a place to go when we argue about what to watch on the tube.

Got my in laws staying with me for an extended period.  The old man is starting to see the merits of the tv in the garage too (as long as the modine is keeping it warm).