My quick look at the NCAA rules leads me to say that there is no way the school can offer anything to the athlete's spouse or child, except in very limited circumstances (don't forget Rick Majerus got in trouble for providing hotel meals to players--and he lived in the hotel).
From the book of surprises (
http://www.ncaa.org/wps/portal):
16.6.1 Permissible.
An institution may not provide any expenses to a student-athlete's relatives or friends, except as permitted in 16.6.1 and 16.11.
16.6.1.1 Expenses for Spouse/Children to Postseason Football Game or NCAA Championship.
The institution may provide the cost of actual and necessary expenses (e.g., transportation, lodging, meals and expenses associated with team entertainment functions) for the spouse and children of an eligible student-athlete to accompany the student-athlete to a licensed postseason football game or an NCAA football championship in which the student-athlete is a participant, and in other sports, to one round (conducted at the site) of any NCAA championship in which the student-athlete is a participant. (Revised: 2/1/05)
16.6.1.3.1 Family Member of Student-Athlete.
An institution may pay transportation, housing and meal expenses for a student-athlete, a student-athlete's spouse and/or children and the student-athlete's teammates to be present in situations in which a family member or legal guardian of the student-athlete suffers a life-threatening injury or illness or, in the event of a family member's or legal guardian's death, to provide the student-athlete and the student-athlete's teammates with expense in conjunction with funeral arrangements. (Adopted: 1/10/95 effective 8/1/95; Revised: 11/1/01 effective 8/1/02, 4/25/02 effective 8/1/02, 5/22/07)
16.11.1.1 General Rule.
Receipt of a benefit (including otherwise prohibited extra benefits per Bylaw 16.11.2) by student-athletes, their relatives or friends is not a violation of NCAA rules if it is demonstrated that the same benefit is generally available to the institution's students and their relatives or friends.
16.11.1.3 Loan from Established Family Friend.
A student-athlete may receive a loan from an established family friend without such arrangement constituting an extra benefit, provided: (Adopted: 1/11/94)
(a) The loan is not offered to the student-athlete based in any degree on his or her athletics ability or reputation;
(b) The individual providing the loan is not considered a representative of the institution's athletics interests; and
(c) The relationship between the individual providing the loan and the student-athlete existed prior to the initiation of the student-athlete's recruitment by the member institution.
